A unique HCI meet on Managing Finances and avoiding Stress

The Hugging Club of India’s (HCI) meeting on 18th August 2019 in Mumbai, Bandra (W), showcased an altogether new topic – The subject of MONEY or ‘How to manage your finances and get out of debt and related mental stress’. It has my third meet up at HCI and I was looking forward to meeting the speaker Balachandran Ramiah, a qualified, expert investment professional.

I tend to be a big spender on the things I love – travel, art, health and educative workshops. Although I have never been in debt, I wanted to know how I could make the best use of my money and curb my impulsive spending tendency while increasing my savings. And Bala turned out to be the perfect person to guide us in the matters of money.

Bala himself is an impressive, highly educated academic, having done a PhD in Business strategy from Wharton Business school, graduation from IIT Delhi and MBA from IIM Kolkatta. No wonder the meet was packed to brim with interested people who were keen to meet him and their own challenges on the topic.

In a soft, gentle voice Bala spoke lucidly about himself and his journey towards savings and investment. He eleborated on our spending patterns, common money challenges, the debt trap, good debts and bad debts, helpful money habits and much more.

Some of the major points discussed (including queries from participants) were:

• How to keep control over unplanned expenses
• Avoiding debt traps – eg. Delaying full payment on credit cards
• Knowing the difference between a Good Debt ( eg. Housing loan) and a Bad debt (taking a loan for a trip abroad, personal loans with very high interest rates, taking loans from friends)
• Prioritising debts and paying them off accordingly
• Ensuring liquid cash at bank for at least 6 months for any unforeseen circumstances like losing a job, emergency medical expenses for family members, etc. Especially critical when you are the sole earning member 
• It is never too late or too early to invest your money
• Taking one big loan to pay off all your smaller debts in one go
• Spending money on building new skills and getting trained is a good investment
• Money that you don’t need for up to 3 years can be parked in Hybrid funds
• Spending money is not bad – but when one has eccentricities, temptations and if it becomes habit forming, the chances of getting into debt are high

Keeping track of our expenses by jotting them down helps us gauge and exercise control over our expenditure. This is Bala’s regular habit and he encouraged all of us to do so.

It was a most interesting session where all our queries were answered very well. At the end of the meet, we were charged up to take care of our money and save it wisely.

– Mahrukh

Some of the participants at the HCI meet
Balachandran Ramiah speaking at the HCI meet at Bandra
Umang Sheth with others listening raptly

Interactive discussion on Mental Therapies with clinical psychologists Mr. Kuldeep Datay and Mrs. Siddika on Saturday, 6th April’19

Today’s session on dealing with mental therapies was indeed marvelous. This was my 2nd HCI meet and I am already having a feeling to attend as much as I can. The clinical psychologists Mr. Kuldeep Datay and Mrs. Siddika conducted a very interactive session. As always, Umang Sheth played the perfect host and made sure everyone’s questions/queries get addressed. I must say that almost all questions raised by the host as well as the audience were so much relatable and the answers given to it just refined our thought process.

Here are some of the key takeaways, I would like to share-

1. Self preservation is important before being a caregiver; self preservation is NOT being selfish

2. One needs to really work on his/her expectations first before doing anything for others. Do it because you want to do it and not because its your “duty” or in favour of expecting something. This is the way to feel “light” and to deal with overthinking

3. Mental illness is as normal as having a physical illness and nothing like something to hide or be ashamed of

4. Its very important to set the expectations right before doing anything for your loved ones

5. Always focus on spending quality time to spend with your loved ones rather than quantity

6. Positive thinking, motivational speeches work but when you realize its not working never hesitate to seek help from professional psychotherapist/psychologist

Can’t thank you enough Umang for making this happen!

Can mental illness be removed from its root? Q & A with Clinical Psychologist on Saturday, 6th April.

Can mental illness be removed from its root? Will crystal work for my chronic depression? Will Vipasana give me relief from anxiety & ADHD? Clear your doubts from clinical psychologist Kuldeep Datay @ HCI meet on Mental Therapy : What Works & What Doesn’t on Guddi Padwa, Saturday, 6th April.

Felt lighter over heavy food @ HCI Potluck on 3rd March’19.

I have only been to two HCI meets so far and I am already beginning to notice some benefits.

People understand that you are in a unique situation and it’s okay to not be perfect emotionally.

HCI meets are quite therapeutic simply by way of letting you share things. 

I feel lighter and I have more energy.

It’s like sympathetic cleansing, if that’s even a thing!

He tried committing suicide. Now he tries to stop others from doing so!

At the upcoming #HCI potluck on Sunday, 3rd March (2 to 8 pm), Yogesh Yadav, a suicide survivor, will share his challenges with depression and loneliness. And how he successfully bounced back to living a meaningful life after trying to kill himself. Come and get inspired – no matter what you are going through in your life. Read more stories on www.huggingclubofindia.org